What to do when kids want to quit Martial Arts Classes…
After attending martial arts classes for some time, it is not uncommon for some children to tell their parents they would like to quit because they are “bored.” If you’re the parent of such a child, you may be wondering whether you should allow him or her to stop taking lessons. How do you know when to encourage your child to continue and when it’s appropriate to quit? Here are some things to consider.
Seeing the Value
Parents are only likely to insist that their child continues with an activity if they see value in it themselves. As such, you should ask yourself whether or not anything could be gained from continuing karate classes. Think about the benefits such as increased self-esteem, better concentration and enhanced self-discipline, and then consider whether your child will be able to obtain those same benefits elsewhere.
On the other hand, if your child hasn’t benefited, you may want to ask yourself why. Is HapKiDo something that just doesn’t interest your child, or has your son or daughter really not given it a fair shot? Has your child attended classes faithfully, or has the commitment level been lower than it should have? You should make your decision only after carefully looking at all these factors, and remember why you started!
The Value of Commitment
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Child development experts agree that there is something to be said for teaching kids the value of commitment. That doesn’t mean you should never allow them to quit anything, but what it does mean is that you should establish firm boundaries for doing so. For example, many parents allow their children to try martial arts in order to determine if it’s something they would like to pursue. Once they decide to continue, they must commit to doing it for a certain period of time, perhaps six months to one year. Only after that time period has elapsed may they withdraw.
Establishing time limits on quitting is beneficial because it teaches kids to preserve even when the going gets tough. Many times, children become frustrated because they have reached a training plateau, and elect to quit rather than face the challenge. Teaching them to overcome frustration is an important part of child development, and is something that will only help them handle difficult situations as adults.
Taking a Break
You may feel as though your child isn’t ready to quit, but simply needs to take a break for awhile. This can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on the length of the break. Taking a week or so off from time to time may be a good idea in order to allow your son or daughter some time to focus. Any more than that, and you run the risk of him or her falling out of routine and electing not to continue. What’s more, other students are likely to progress during your absence, leaving your child feeling inadequate because he or she is now “behind.” For this reason, we advise against taking extended breaks from karate class.
It can be easy to give in when your child wants to quit; however, before saying yes immediately, you may want to think it over to ensure you do not regret doing so later. A part of normal child development for many kids involves indecisiveness, so it’s not uncommon for children to quit only to decide they want to re-enroll only a short time later.
If your child would like to quit our dojo, we recommend a disenrollment conference in our office to determine the reason. Many times, kids want to quit karate class because they are interested in pursuing other activities that may not have as much value. Your son or daughter may also want to spend more time with children who are not enrolled in classes, and feel that quitting would be the only way to do so. By finding out why your child wants to quit, we can work together to determine if doing so would be truly beneficial.
Nearly every child wants to quit martial arts at one point or another, including those who go on to earn black belts. Just because your child has expressed an interest in quitting doesn’t necessarily mean discontinuing in our program is the best choice. It’s important to take several factors into account before deciding to give up on an activity that provides so many unique benefits.